You didn’t think it would ever happen. You thought your fella popping the question was about as likely as a humble Kardashian. But it did happen. The man of your dreams got down on one knee and asked you to spend the rest of your life with him, and everybody around you ugly cried a lot.
The sun is shining, the birds are singing, and your girlfriends are squealing with delight. It’s not a dream. You know because you’ve pinched yourself five times in the last hour.
And then, just like that, reality starts to set in. You’re getting married, and you’re going to have to plan your own wedding! We predict you’ve gone from 😌 To 😱
But don’t worry. Weddings have been a part of life since the beginning of time, and if your ancestors could pull it off, you definitely can. After all, you’re from the generation that invented the selfie stick.
Here are a few tips to make the planning process pretty close to painless.
Talk It Out
Remember that everyone has a different vision of what they want their wedding to be. Some people grow up fantasizing about the big day, while others don’t really think about it until they have a ring on their finger. Some brides-to-be want an elaborate, fairytale extravaganza, while lowkey’s the name of the game for others.
Before you start your next chapter together, make sure you’re both on the same page. Sit down with your partner and talk it out. Make sure to share your expectations for the big day, and make sure you listen to theirs, too. Communication is key in any relationship, but it’s everything when it comes to weddings.
Make So Many Lists
Top 10 lists aren’t just for Buzzfeed. They’re also a super tool for organizing your thoughts. Work with your partner on lists of:
Brainstorm a budget
Nobody likes crunching numbers -- well except maybe Denise in accounting -- but when you’re talking weddings, it’s important to work together on a realistic budget that works for you both. Take the lists you put together earlier and start attaching dollar amounts to each item. You’ll be surprised how far a little perspective will take you.
Create a Timeline
Do you want to get married in three months? Six? Or maybe you want to take the James Cameron route and make everybody wait 10 years.
Once you and your partner agree on a reasonable budget to spend on the wedding, start getting real about how much time it’s going to take coordinating it all. Will you enjoy your big day if you have it three months from now, or will you be too stressed to take it all in?
Remember That Wedding Planners Are a Thing
Some of us thrive on making weddings happen. Others can’t stand the pressure and would much rather have somebody do it for them. That’s where a great wedding planner comes into play. Let’s call them professional worryers. Make worrying about your wedding cake their job. Let a planner work with you on choosing the perfect flowers, centerpieces, libations, and everything else, leaving you time to do the fun stuff like picking out the perfect dress.
The event planners at Events Unleashed are ready and willing to handle every aspect of your big day, and we’re just as prepared to step back and let you call the shots.
Remember, no matter how big or small, it’s your day, and the best way to pull it off without any tears is to take it one step at a time. Make your wedding happen your way.