Asking for Support With Your Wedding Without Sounding Like You're Begging

Let’s face it, weddings are more expensive now than ever before. The average US wedding now costs $35,329! That’s a whole lot of money for only two people to come up with. There is no shame in asking family and friends to help support this cost (remember-- the families used to be the ones who foot the bill for this special day). Asking for money from friends and family for your wedding doesn't have to be difficult at all. Follow these easy steps to make sure that you do it the right way.

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Step One
Identify with your partner who you want to ask and why.

Think about the people that are closest to you, that you highly respect, and know want to support you and your fiancé. You might be surprised at how much others want to see you have a spectacular wedding.

Step Two
Come up with a plan to ask.

In-person: Inviting friends and family over to discuss your plans for the wedding may help them see your vision and increase their chances of assisting you. 
Over the phone: For friends and family that don’t live nearby, asking over the phone is much more realistic than in-person. Take the time to call those that you plan on asking. Tip: Write out a short script that you can read so that you don’t get flustered while trying to make your request. 
By Mail: Never underestimate the power of a handwritten letter. Not only will it make the person you’re asking feel special, but it also conveys how important the request is to you.
Virtually: Consider emailing your friends and family your request. You can include the overall cost and what you plan on doing with the funds so that they see you have a clear and reasonable plan.

Step Three
Ask!  

It could sound something like, “We want to properly manage our expectations as we move towards the planning phase of our wedding. We would like to know if you plan on contributing to our needs for our special day. We have/haven't spoke about this before, but I want to make sure we’re all on the same page.”

Step Four
Don’t Get Discouraged and Get Creative!
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Sometimes your friends and family may want to help but can’t afford it. If you know that someone would like to help but can’t financially, you may want to see if they can help by offering their time or skills. If you know one of your family members can bake, ask if they will make the desserts for your wedding if you supply the ingredients. You can even get creative by asking family and friends for a “donation” towards your big day in place of any upcoming birthday or holiday gifts. Don’t be discouraged if you get a couple no’s, because the one person that says yes may contribute in more ways than you could imagine. There are endless ways to reach your magical wedding goals! Good luck and happy planning!

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Post written by Kaley M. for Events Unleashed.